How long should I wait to see if attraction develops?

Three to five more dates if you are in the neutral case, meaning nothing about them puts you off and nothing has landed yet. Not months. Use two checkpoints along the way: whether you look forward to seeing them rather than merely not minding, and whether there is any physical pull at all, however small. Anticipation usually shows up before physical attraction does, so if both are still absent by the fifth date, that is your answer. An open-ended wait is not patience, it is avoidance of the decision.

Can physical attraction grow over time?

Yes, most reliably from a neutral starting point, and mainly through familiarity and shared experience rather than through waiting. Repeated low-pressure contact tends to increase liking, an effect known as the mere-exposure effect, and it is a modest one rather than a magic one. What it does not do is overturn active aversion. If something specific about the person puts you off, more time very rarely changes that, and saying so plainly is what separates honest advice from encouragement to stay somewhere you should leave.

Is it a slow burn or is he just not interested?

Read consistency, not intensity. Someone genuinely warming up slowly still shows up reliably, keeps making effort without being prompted, and talks about plans in the future tense. Someone ambivalent produces intensity in bursts and silence in between, and leaves the arranging to you. Slow is not the same as ambivalent, but ambivalence hides behind slow very comfortably, so judge the pattern over a few weeks rather than the temperature of any single evening.

Should I tell him I am not sure yet?

Not in those words. Announcing your uncertainty puts the other person into an audition, which usually makes things worse rather than more honest. Keep it to pace instead, and be honest about that. What actually matters is the other half: do not let a decision you have already made run for another month because ending it is uncomfortable. When you get there, two sentences are enough — that you have genuinely enjoyed their company, and that you are not feeling it the way you would need to. No diagnosis of them, no list of what was missing.

Wie lange soll man warten, bis Anziehung wächst?

Neutral oder abgestoßen? Anziehung wächst aus Neutralität, fast nie aus Abneigung. Die Drei-bis-fünf-Dates-Regel, zwei Prüfpunkte und ein ehrliches Ende.

There is no fixed timeline, but there is a distinction that decides the answer: neutral versus repelled. If nothing about the person puts you off and nothing has landed yet, attraction can grow, and three to five more dates is a fair amount of time to give it. If something specific actively puts you off, more time almost never changes that, and waiting mostly costs you both. Two checkpoints tell you which way it is going: do you look forward to seeing them, and is there any physical pull at all, however small. If both are still no after five dates, stop. What speeds attraction up is not time itself but the order information arrives in: people who report attraction growing almost always knew the person before they were judging them as a date.

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